Removing the “Can’t”


“I could never give up eating cheese.” – A wonderful person said that to me the other day.

What he probably meant to say is that he “doesn’t want” to give up eating cheese.

But let’s say he did want to – I know that he would be right when he said that he can’t. Anytime I say to myself that I can’t do something, even if it is something I want, I know that I’m right too.

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t…you’re right” – That was said by Henry Ford and it is true in all areas of our lives.

The words that we use are a reflection of our thoughts. The thoughts we have are a reflection of our beliefs. And the beliefs we hold dear dictate the experience of our life.

It’s easy to argue against this paradigm. It’s easy to say “no, I’ve tried, and I can’t” or to say that a person with seeming limitations can’t do something. It is those words which reflect our thoughts, which dictate the experience of our lives.

But if we were to change those beliefs, the words would change and then so would the experience of what we can or can’t do.

Helen Keller, who was blind and deaf in the nineteenth century learned to talk, write, and read. She became the first deaf/blind person to earn a bachelors degree and went on to inspire generations not only with her story but also with her insightful published works.

Jennifer Bricker, a woman born without legs and because of it given up for adoption, was raised by her adoptive parents to know that “can’t” is not part of her vocabulary. She did not consider herself disabled and she achieved her dream of becoming a gymnastics champion and an acrobat.

So, when people tell me that they can’t lose weight, I know that they are right…at least for now.

When there is something that we want that seems so out of reach that we truly believe we can’t have it, then the task isn’t to focus on the how of of what we want, the task is to examine and dissolve or change that belief  that the word “can’t” represents so that the limitation disappears.

From that point anything is possible.

“If you are never given limits, you can do anything” – Jennifer Bricker

“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” – Helen Keller

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